Help, I'm having trouble finding Mr. Right?

I'm a soon to be 26 year old woman. I'm a divorced mother of one. I really don't have time to meet new people, except on the net, I looked into a dating site and they wanted to charge me like $30 a month to meet my "true" love. I'm beautiful but thick, not really fat. I hang w/ the guys and we joke around and hang out on the weekends, but I think most men are intimidated by my personality, ( I'm outgoing, opinionated,liberated,etc). I often am refered to as kinda manly, I try not to be but I was raised by a farmer, I've always been sort of a tomboy, but hell I can't find a man to be man enough to make me happy! I do have a creative side as well, I love to read and paint I was accepted to several fine art's colleges when I was younger. I've been told I'm emotionally detached, but the main reason for that is because I'm tired of being hurt! Every time I meet a guy all he's interested in is getting in my pants, nothing more. Where are all the decent men at?